We realize that sending your student to college is a
time of tremendous transition for your family. All
students go through an adjustment period and experience
many ups and downs while living away from home. There
are many resources here on campus available for your
student to manage this transition successfully.
Our preference in working with student concerns is to
deal directly with the student. This enables us to
establish a relationship with your student and helps to
get to the crux of the issues more efficiently. We do
welcome parent input and questions at any time. Our goal
is to provide parents with the resources which they can
pass on to their student to help them to help
It is important that students have support and
encouragement from home while being allowed to mature
through their own experiences. By all means be there for
your student as a sounding board, but let him or her
handle their own problems as much as possible. Your
student's success is dependent upon his or her own
ability to function independently.
Visit this website often for information regarding our department and things that may be of interest to you.
Just a Couple of
Resources for Parents and Families in Transition...
Transition to College: Separation and Change for Parents
and Students (online)
From the NYU Child Study Center, this document helps
both students and parents in the adjustment to the
changes resulting from starting college.
College Parents of America (website)
College Parents of America is the nation's only
membership organization of current and future college
parents. Founded in 1997, our mission is to assist
families in the successful preparation, transition,
adjustment and completion through college.
US Dept of Education's Higher Education Center for
Alcohol, Drug Abuse, & Violence Prevention (website)
The Higher Education Center helps campuses and
communities address problems of alcohol, other drugs,
and violence by identifying effective strategies and
programs based upon the best prevention science.
Karen Levin Coburn,
Letting Go: A Parents' Guide to Understanding the
College Year, 5th edition. (2009, book)
For more than a decade Letting
provided hundreds of thousands of parents with valuable
insights, information, comfort, and guidance throughout
the emotional and social changes of their children's
college years—from the senior year in high school
through college graduation. Based on real-life
experience and recommended by colleges and universities
around the country, this indispensable book has been
updated and revised, offering even more compassionate,
practical, and up-to-the-minute information.
Bringing Home the Laundry (2000, book)
Bringing Home the Laundry combines a psychologist's
advice with the stories and insights of parents and
their college-aged kids. It reassures you that your
child's departure for college does not sever family
ties, but can mark the beginning of a deeply satisfying,
exciting new phase in your parent-child relationship.
Helen E. Johnson & Christine Schelhas-Miller,
Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money : The
Essential Parenting Guide to the College Years
Does your daughter call home in tears over the latest
"crisis," leaving you feeling helpless and concerned? Is
your son confused about his major? When children leave
for college many parents feel uncertain about their
shifting role. By emphasizing the importance of being a
Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money shows
that parents may have lost control over their college
student, but they haven't lost influence.
You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me):
Mentoring Your Child During the College Years
Parents whose kids are away at college have a tough
tightrope to walk: they naturally want to stay connected
to their children, yet they also need to let go. What's
more, kids often send mixed messages: they crave space,
but they rely on their parents' advice and assistance.
Not surprisingly, it's hard to know when it's
appropriate to get involved in your child's life and
when it's better to back off.
You're On Your Own
(But I'm Here If You Need Me) helps
parents identify the boundaries between necessary
involvement and respect for their child's independence.
Marjorie Savage, who as a parent herself empathizes with
moms and dads, but who as a student services
professional understands kids, offers advice on